We often have these waves of thoughts that are intercepted by the local media, tv reports and opinions of friends about almost all the tragedies which we have faced over our lifetime. This year started out gloomy with ma’s illness, the recovery of which had been the main focus in our lives. Jan 15th onwards, the role of a mother-child relationship reversed and she was both bed-ridden and totally and completely dependent. We also saw a decline in every aspect of her health as well as mental and emotional wellbeing. I intended a blog on ma more as a self-therapy and to overcome the grief that just refuses to lessen, but before I could unearth the emotion and time to do so, the heartrending news of the mysterious disappearance of a 777 boeing surfaced, drowning every other priority or notion we want to pursue.
I have been reading the papers meticulously to which ma would have commented that my student days are back and there would or could be a paper which I would be assessed on. I also have watched every news channel on the net and on tv diligently, soaking in and listening to unbiased/biased information, alongwith every now and then evaluating the comments and opinions over the social networks and amongst whoever I meet in person.
I have buckets to say about this and I feel my head rupturing with too many contradictions, but I have held back simply because I have faced a loss not long ago, and I figured that if I had a family member on that plane,just as I wished/wanted for ma, I would want a prayer for that missing member. This again does not mean I am religious or/and I believe in prayer, but I have always maintained this, just because I do not believe in something, doesn’t mean that it does not exist. Therefore, if there is death, let the souls rest in peace.
I dreamt of Captain Zahari, he was exhausted and I was beside him talking to him like old friends do. There was more to the dream which I will refrain from amplifying here because dreams are said to be a byproduct of our inner thoughts. I am neither afraid to say what I think nor would I openly say them, but I feel if certain words of the masses have seeped through a crack to anger me, my opinion might do the same to them. Why add fire to an already huge furnace?
It is here that I want to bring up a very dear friend of mine, someone who’s blog is worth a read, not because his opinion is important or unbiased, but because he highlights certain issues that might escape us in our determination and drive to blame this whole thing on any one individual or government. His blog is hobbit1964.blogspot.com.
Since my blog is meant more for my own ramblings and therapy, and I know hardly anyone would peek into what I have written or into the friend’s blog that I am including here, I still want to do it as a reminder to myself that in seeking for peace, appreciating those who have done a job better than I ever could, offering expertise and kindness wherever and whenever I am able to, I will be focusing on the right things and eliminating all negative actions, words, thoughts (whether speculation or not) which would have scarred me as a lesser mortal.
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Kudos Subrata!Very well written.
There seems to be more questions than answers coming in my mind even while I was reading your blog.
1) Whom are we trying to lie?
2) What are we trying to hide?
In an age of sophisticated satellites, radars, computers, drones - you name it, a huge aircraft with 300 or more people and cargo on-board suddenly plops from the sky and that to with no evidence none what-so-ever!!! This is too much digest.
Dear OJ
We humans often expect results the moment we submit a problem. Everything is quick-fixed in this century. I am not supporting the authorities, guilty or not, but even with the sophisticated machines, there are still protocols to follow. There could be lies and there could be hidden agendas, there could be injustice or delayed submissions, whatever the case, whatever the truth, it will not change with mere suspicion and speculation.
Lets digest what we can, and that which we cannot, we leave it to time, ...and God if you believe in Him
Hi Sub,
Well said my friend !!
As I am so much saddened by the heartbreaking news,certain things some times are just beyond our mind to configure..For what I believe, He has better plans for us and He who knows best.Though it's hard for the families and kin,I pray for them to be given the strength to face this difficult situation.As always..time will heal...
Love the last sentence of your reply to OJ.
My dear Datin
Thank you for the honour of the visit and the comment. Many like you who believe in God will find solace in Him. But for others, allow me to reiterate and stress repeatedly that a positive thought creates a change that is rippled and that itself is our biggest consolation. Lets focus on love, respect and peace rather than lynching and accusations.
So true! When blogs build up its like a conversation among the people who might not see you but understand your heart through your words. Your personal tragedy of loosing Mom really speaks of the cherishing moments that you have spent with her & speaks of your heart as a daughter. When my Dad left us last year....all I could think of was 'his agony & his helplessness' had ended. All I wanted to do my best was give him a farewell full of love, respect & that dedication which he had wanted from his family throughout. I pray that we are all blessed by God & His protection for the world!
Hi Subi,
I was hoping to respond to your blog post sooner. It took me a while to persuade myself to respond, because on first read it didn't sufficiently move me. On first read I felt you could've written so much more, knowing how articulate you are and also to what extent such incidents disturb you, being such a sensitive person. So I was expecting a much more erudite piece, seen through the eyes of someone who's seen so much more than I have. Maybe it was my own high expectations of you. Or perhaps this tragedy, coming so close to the heels of your personal bereavement, which may have benumbed your sensitivity to bring out a sharper response. As you yourself mentioned, you have buckets to say on this subject, and I'm looking forward to read more from your erudite pen. It is a terrible tragedy, made all the more confounding by the sheer tenacity of the mystery remaining yet unsolved, in spite of the might of the global powers, hopefully, leaving no stone unturned. Since you're closer to the theater, you can comprehend the enormity of the loss and the grief faced by the people who lost their loved ones, from closer quarters than someone like me. But what I can certainly understand is the anger that insensitive comments can bring. You did wise to refrain from using your blog to provide a rebuttal, which could very well have added to the controversy, without any positive outcome. Time is a great healer, they say. But the scars always remain. May you find the strength to face all that comes your way with equanimity. God bless.
Yes Sons, mum and I had a 48 yr relationship. How do u surmise it into a one chapter blog? It will take me time n moments to mention her in a blog that I hope will be atleast partly justified. Tq for ur comments.
Thank you Ajay for your time and comments albeit delayed ;). I meant this piece as an introduction to my friend's blog. However, I could not resist the before and aftermath of it. The MH370 incident appears to emerge as the most expensive and misunderstood/speculated mystery in the history of aviation. Jeff has mentioned much in his blog, which gives me allowance to refrain from adding anything further, for now atleast. We may proceed with the continuation of this or any subject when we meet. My recent bereavement is a difficult task to overcome. Mum was my `raison d etre', and such a blog will follow.
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